Do You STILL Believe That Goal Setting & Affirmations Will Lead You to Success?
Goal Setting is the reigning king of all success techniques ever taught.
You have likely been taught that if you will write down your goals and read them daily, somehow they will happen.
That’s just not true.
My research shows that 8 out of 10 things a person writes on a goal list will never happen. Everyone has goals they didn’t finish and many they didn’t even start on!
When you buy into the idea of goal setting and observe week after week, month after month or year after year, that you are not achieving those goals, you will almost always draw negative conclusions about yourself like:
- I must not have what it takes
- I am a failure
- I never accomplish anything I set out to do
Any negative conclusions like that about yourself are just not true.
Success has little to do with your failures, current abilities or skills.
If you have heard a motivational speaker in the last year or two, answer this question: How long did you stay motivated?
Most people I ask that question of tell me things like: two days; `till I got out of the parking lot; two weeks.
The conclusion you must draw from that feedback I have gotten from my research and my audiences all over the world is that, no matter how good and no matter how interesting, motivational speakers have no lasting affect.
Going to hear them is like going to a movie. They can make you laugh or cry but then you go home, your life doesn’t change. They were great entertainment; had some great ideas and maybe some right on concepts, but your life is still the same.
Self-help books are also plentiful. I wrote one. How many do you have in your library? 1? 5? 20? 100?
How many does it take to be successful? Have you read the book Think and Grow Rich?
Are you rich?
If you’re like most people, you’ve gotten the “think” part down but the “grow rich” part didn’t happen.
If you have read all these books and listened to speakers and still aren’t achieving at the level you want, should you draw the conclusion that either you just couldn’t grasp the concepts being taught or that they were full of misinformation?
Of course, neither of those is true. You are not dense nor, in most cases, is the information wrong. Something is missing, that’s all.
Do you like people to lie to you?
Of course not.
Then don’t buy into the concept that lying to yourself is acceptable or that it will make you successful. That’s what the concept of daily affirmations asks you to do.
- I weigh 125 pounds
- I Drive a Mercedes
- I am out of debt
If those things aren’t the truth then what are they? Lies.
Supposedly, your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between the truth and a lie. Even if that is true, your conscious mind sure does!
Stating thousands of times that you are rich or that you are thin or have increased your sales by 25% or drive a Mercedes clashes immediately with your conscious mind, because it knows better.
Writing goals that you don’t achieve and stating affirmations that aren’t true will only cause you to waste time and create false hope.
It has been said that your mind is like a computer – garbage in garbage out – good stuff in good stuff out.
However, that’s just not true. Your mind is not like a computer. Your mind is vastly different from a computer because you have choice.
You don’t have to spew out garbage just because it was put in! Conversely, good information put into your mind does not mean that good information will come out. Whether it does or doesn’t is a matter of choice on your part.
So don’t do daily affirmations. They are an exercise in futility and teach you to be a bold faced liar. You may feel good that you are supposedly “programming your mind” but that is simply not the case. You are merely lying to yourself.
There are many more self-help concepts that exist which have similar flaws in them making them inoperable in your life. Yet millions of people keep on doing them. Why?
Because they have been told this is how you succeed and they want success so badly they blindly accept that information. Even when they aren’t working, people will either try the same thing over and over each time with renewed determination and vigor or they throw more money into the next seminar or book.
The definition of insanity has been stated this way. “Doing what you’ve been doing expecting different results”.
There is a better, simpler way.
It starts with knowing what your Core Desires are – the things that you truly want – that will enable you to do whatever it takes to achieve your success. If you are doing things like goal setting and affirmations and you have found that they aren’t working for you, try something different!
Begin to identify your own Core Desires and move on from that point – you will find it a much more encouraging exercise than either setting yourself up for failure or telling yourself lies!