Are Making Resolutions Going to Help You Obtain Your Core Desires in 2009?
Do you start the New Year off with a renewed desire to do better this year?
A New Year presents the chance to:
- Start over
- Let go of the past
- Make the upcoming year better than the last
- Achieve goals that you haven’t yet.
- i.e. Lose weight, get in shape, be nicer to the kids or spouse. Sell more. Earn more. Stop smoking. Stop swearing. Stop lying. Go to church more.
- The list is endless…
It’s a chance to start anew with determination and resolve to be better, to do better.
At least, that’s the theory.
A resolution is a plan that feels good and something you hope will work….but, alas, it doesn’t.
New years resolutions are made to be ________.
Why does everyone know what goes in the blank?
It’s because they have mocked and joked about it in the media, in cartoons and late night shows, and you have likely experienced it yourself as broken resolutions continue to happening year after year.
The same thing happens with goal setting. You probably diligently set goals for the month, the quarter, the year. Your goals are sincerely committed to, written down and maybe even read several times a day, and then not attained time and time again.
The word resolution implies that one is “resolute” about something. Some synonyms for the word resolute are determined, adamant, resolved, immutable.
A goal was identified, a decision was made and a resolution was committed to.
If you made a resolution and then broke it, that simply means you weren’t resolute, determined or committed to making it happen.
If you only think you are resolute about achieving something but really aren’t, you will start on the path to make it happen but it will only a matter of time before you give up and quit. That is what happens with most goals in general.
If done correctly, your goals and aspirations will be achieved, but only if a certain, vital ingredient is there.
If it is not there, your dreams and aspirations are destined to wither and die, and failure is all that is left.
You have the power within you to do, have or become what ever you want. This power is God given or innate.
But where is the switch?
“Within!” comes the quick answer.
That’s true. The trouble is, no one is able to tell you how to go “within” to flip on the switch to that power.
There is a certain, vital ingredient that flips on your switch. What is this essential element that must be present before your Conquering Force can kick in at full power and cause you to achieve peak performance and high levels of success?
Maximum success in anything is as a direct result of this crucial ingredient being there. What is it?
Core Desires (c). That’s the answer. A Core Desire is the catalyst that MUST be present to maximize success in anything.
A Core Desire is something you want so badly it pierces you to the very core of your heart. It is something you want with ALL your heart. Not half hearted. Not three quarters hearted. Whole hearted.
It is the switch that unleashes the Conquering Force within you. It is what causes teenagers to get drivers licenses and a car. It is what causes you to learn and accomplish anything. Your Conquering Force can be used for good or evil.
Everything you want in this life can be measured on a scale from 1 to 100. A 1 is something you would never do in a million years. A 50 is half way there. Half hearted. Half hearted doesn’t cut it – in anything.
Core Desires are the 100s.
There are always obstacles between where you are and where you want to be. If the desire for the end result is a 70 on the scale, you’ll get 70% of the way there.
Any obstacle at 71 or higher will stop you permanently just like a dam does water. If the desire is a 90 on the scale, you will get 90% of the way there.
If it is not a Core Desire, you’ll spend money and time and energy on it for a while but will fall short because, at some point, you will run into an obstacle at 71, 91 or higher which will stop you permanently.
An old Welsh Proverb says, “The hand will not reach for what the heart does not long for.”
There are no barriers at 100 on the scale. That’s why nothing stops a Core Desire. Anyone who succeeds at anything does so because it is a Core Desire, at 100 on the scale.
To identify a Core Desire, ask yourself this simple question: What do I want that I am not getting?
As soon as you know the answer, ask this question: If I had that, what would it give me that I’m not getting?
Keep asking “and what would that give me that I’m not getting” and when you get to the “Core” Desire you will always have some kind of an emotional experience.
o You may feel joy.
o You may feel tremendous assurance and have total confidence that you have hit the proverbial nail on the head.
o You may even start to tear up.
o You may burst into tears and cry.
o You may just breathe a deep sigh signifying that, “Yes that’s what I really want”.
You’ll just know it when you get there.
Once you discover a 100 on the scale of 1 to 100, you will then be motivated from within to learn whatever you need to learn. The easy part is finding the source of knowledge and wisdom specific to your Core Desire.
You will spend your money and time far more wisely because you will only buy the book or CD program or go to the mentor or seminar that is specific to helping you reach your Core Desire.
This last truth will eliminate any negative labeling of yourself if you are not achieving some “goal” you have set.
If you are not doing what it takes to achieve a goal, it is an indication that is not a 100 on the scale. It has nothing to do with your ability or intellect. You simply didn’t want it badly enough.
Rudyard Kipling, Nobel Prize winning author said it this way, “If you do not get what you want it is a sign that you did not seriously want it.”
Launch this New Year with this new understanding of what it really takes to be successful and you will be amazed at how much happiness and success will be yours in the year 2009 and beyond.
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