Saturday, May 26th, 2018

The foundation of all great relationships


If you have ever fallen in love with that special someone you will relate to this story.

A friend of mine came to me one day and asked me to help her roommate. It seems she was dating a guy who was not good to her or for her. I had a reputation of being able to help people so I said. “Okay, I’ll see what I can do. What is her name?” She answered, “Marci.”

The foundation of all great relationships

The foundation of all great relationships

It took a while but I finally got a date with this woman. It was a blind date and I didn’t care about looks or anything else because I was on a mission to save a friend not find a mate. When Marci answered the door and I saw her for the first time I have to admit, my mission changed in a heartbeat. She was beautiful!

On our first date we went to a Japanese restaurant called the Mikado. We ate a five-course meal in about an hour and then sat there for another five hours just talking. We opened up our hearts to each other and discussed things that really mattered. We both took a risk and shared everything including the not so good things about ourselves. We were totally open and honest. We didn’t play games. We accomplished as much during that six hour marathon dinner date as most do in six months or more of dating! That night we fell in love.

I had never felt so comfortable with a woman in my whole life. By the time the date ended she knew my fears, my failings and my doubts including being afraid she might not like what she was learning about me. She knew me inside and out and still liked me! She also shared the same things about herself. And we really liked that honesty. We trusted each other with our hearts and it paid off in a big way. I knew then, that I wanted her in my life forever! Within 30 days I asked her to be my wife and five months later we were married. That was 35 years ago. I have learned that night that trust is the foundation of all great relationships including business, sales, teaching and especially love relationships.

The experts say that if a goal isn’t written down it won’t happen…that it is merely a fantasy. But that is just not true. I got my fantasy named Marci.

Here’s the moral of the story and the crux of the message I have been taking to the world for over 20 years.

I did not have to go home and write down on a piece of paper and read it twice a day the “goal” that I wanted Marci. That is because she was definitely a Core Desire! A 100 on a scale of 1 to 100!

I have never written down that I would be a professional speaker or author of a book either . Everything I have accomplished I did without doing any kind of goal setting program, which is why I began to doubt the veracity of the idea goal setting.

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